Friday, May 5, 2017 1:09 pm
By Oluwayemisi O. Aladesohun-Fagbemi
I counseled a young guy who was was addicted to masturbation. He was 18 years old. He told me that he could not do without masturbation. What struck me in his confession was when he said “My mum caused all this for me. ”
I then asked him, how? He said he had been masturbating since he was years old. He revealed that his mum was always dressing up naked before him! In other words, he was used to seeing her nakedness. He said he was not moved to having sex with her, but he always longed to see mature ladies naked just the way he always sees his mom dressing up naked before him.
His dad used to shout on the mother: “Send this boy out before you dress.” But the mum would always reply by saying “will my son sleep with me? ” The boy said that he started having sex from age 10 and till now he is not free from sex, heavy pornography and masturbation…
Dear parents, I hope you are not guilty of this! You are dressing up before your two-year old son/daughter, you say he/she doesn’t know anything yet? That is very cruel! Some couples will be having sex while their two-year old child will be in their room with them, they’ll feel and think that he/she can only see, he/she can’t understand! Sir /ma’am, that child of yours is being affected because you are planting abnormal sexual fantasies and urge in him/her. Remember, it is now S jet World!How will you destroy your own child with your carelessness? Let’s try and make amendments. Don’t let your child see your nakedness? Don’t make love in the presence of your children no matter the age.
The scene sticks to the memories, they may want to experiment and explore what they are seeing. Stop making free home-made sex clips or video for your children to watch. Mummy, sit properly and dress properly too. Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room :parting your legs for your son to see your inner thighs and pants. Be careful! Daddy, don’t wear ordinary boxer at home. Sit down,’ your thing ‘is dangling and your daughter is seeing it. There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse. Don’t say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house. It’s not your house alone, it’s a family house /home. You are putting your child into sexual bondage through these acts. The initiation starts from home.
Mummy, wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous. Yes, they won’t lust after you but you might be messing up with their sensuality and increasing their curiosity to see the breast of ladies out there. Let’s stop bringing ‘pornographic materials ‘to our children. Raising sexually pure children begins at home. It begins with me and you.
It is still our responsibility to build virtue into our family. We need to learn from others. Genesis chapter 9verses:20-27, showed us how Noah after being drunk,was naked within his tent. Ham saw the nakedness of his father and told his two brethren and Shem and Japhet came with a garment and laid it upon their shoulders and went backwards and covered his nakedness. When NOAH awoke from his wine, he cursed Ham and his descendants and blessed Shem and Japhet.
Prophetess Christiana Oluwayemisi Oluwakemi Aladesohun-Fagbemi, an Obafemi Awolowo University Biology graduate, is the founder of CAC (Divine Grace Ministry), Ori Oke Agbara Idande, Quarry-Onikainkain Village, Moniya, Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria. Phone: 08052877306. Email: [email protected]